UNDERSTANDING HOMOSEXUALITY & LESBIANISM
The sanctity of sex: The act of marriage is that beautiful and intimate relationship shared uniquely by a husband and wife in the privacy of their love. It is holy or sacred experience and was designed by God to be so in any relationship.
The writer of the book of Hebrews in the Bible declares in Hebrews 15:4 “Marriage is honourable in all and the bed undefiled”. The term the bed undefiled is indicative of the truth that marriage is sacred experience just as worship is. The act of lovemaking is therefore a very holy experience.
The Holy Spirit’s word for ‘bed’ in Hebrew is the Greek Koite (pronounced Koy Tay) meaning ‘cohabitation by implanting the male sperm’ koite comes from the root word Keimai meaning to lie’ and is akin to Koimao which means ‘to cause to sleep’. The commonly used word describing sex is the word coitus which comes from the latin word coition, the Greek word Koite has the same meaning and signifies the relationship a married couple experiences in the bed that the cohabit’ Based on this meaning of the word, Heb.13:4 could be translated, ‘Coitus in marriage is honourable in all and undefiled.’ It is God’s privilege for partners to create a new life, another human being, as a result of the expression of their love.
God, who created sex describes it as very good (Gen. 1:31) and was intended for the purpose of mutual enjoyment by a man and his wife 1Tim.6:17 and also to bring about the propagation of a godly human race. It is against this backdrop that all form of ungodly acts of sex are highly condemned by God.
The word of God clearly spells out God’s design for sexual expression. The restrictions he placed on sexual expression protect the purity of that design.
God has set boundaries on sexual expression because of his holiness and as a means of protecting us from physical and emotional harm. By living within the borders of sexual purity, we can experience this wonderful gift from God as he intended.
The abominable sex acts as enumerated in the Bible includes incest – sex with near relatives Lev.18:10-18, immediate family Lev.18:6-9.fornication i.e. sexual act outside marriage e.g. promiscuity Deut.22:23-25, adultery, Deut.22:22, prostitution Deut. 23:17-18; perversion i.e. Homosexuality and lesbianism Lev.18:22, prov.1:26 bestiality i.e. sex with an animal Lev.18:23 practitioners of these act are in violation of God’s righteous laws and stand judged by God’s word Pro.1:32 and in danger of eternal damnation.
WHOLISTIC SEX EDUCATION: Gen.18:22-26 God created sex to be an intimate bonding experience between a husband and wife. Homosexual and lesbian practices violated God’s design. We must not take sexual sin lightly; indifference about it only conveys acceptance and God does not want us to accept sin. Parents need to teach their children that God has made provision for sexual union within the bonds of marriage between a man and a woman (Gen.2:23-24). Don’t wait what friends and schools to teach them to accept what God calls sinful behaviour. In your comments and attitude towards homosexuals, model love for the person – because God loves all people (Jn.3:16) along with hate for the sin. Parents should be the one to introduce God’s design for sex to their children. God’s word is the standard for truth and is ultimately reliable. It reveals God’s standard about life and human sexuality. In Romans1:24-27, we can see four moral and spiritual truths about homosexuality and lesbianism.
Homosexuality is a behaviour: The Bible never calls homosexuality an identity or an alternative sexuality created by God. The Bible says ‘women…… indulged in sex … With each other. And the men…..doing shameful things with other men……’Romans 1:26 - 27.
Homosexuality is a sinful behaviour: Sinful means that such behaviour is displeasing to God. The word of God says; ‘God let them go ahead into every sort of sex sin’ Romans 1: 24.
Homosexuality and Lesbianism is a substitute for God’s natural plan: the word of God says that “even their women turned against God’s natural plan (Rom.1:26). God created all people to be heterosexuals even as there would be a male and female character among homosexuals .. Homosexuality and lesbianism is a spiritual and emotional disorientation, deviation and disorder of his plan.
As with all sin, the root of homosexuality and lesbianism is caused and maintained by those who refuse to honour God. “They know about him all right, but they wouldn’t admit it or worship him or even thank him all his daily care” Rom.1:21.
All sin is a turning away from God all healing comes from a return to God spiritually and morally, lesbianism and homosexuality as a sinful behaviour that distorts God’s natural plan for human sexuality. Loss of self worth, low self esteem, identity crises and a filthy disposition and a high suicidal tendency are some of the traits in the lives of confessed homosexuals and lesbians.
Homosexuality is not the unforgivable sin: It is important to understand that homosexual behaviour has emotional and psychological roots. While homosexuality is sin, it is not the unforgivable sin. God knows that all of us are sinners prone to emotional wounding and disordered behaviour.
In the gospel of St. John 8: 1-11, we see the story of an adulterous woman who was brought before Jesus. If this had been a homosexual person, Jesus would have meted same act of kindness to such an individual. The word of God says; Jesus loved the woman just as he loves all sinners including homosexuals and lesbians popularly knows as “gays”. He forgave her and commanded her to stop sinning. He said; neither do I condemn you. Go and sin no more. (John 8:11). God loves homosexuals or gays and calls them to repent and be healed. He seeks their conversion, not their shame and ruin.
How to overcome Homosexuality and Lesbianism:
There are six elements to an effective healing program for individuals struggling with lesbianism or homosexuality.
Firstly, the individual most open his/her heart to the pure love of God. Only God can give a new heart through a personal relationship through Jesus Christ. He or she needs to become a child of God. Only Jesus can give the overcomer this real relationship to God because as he says “no one can get to the father except by him (John 14: 6) “To all who received him (Jesus) he gave power to become the children of God” (John 1:12)
Secondly, the individual needs a personal devotional life that include regular study and meditation on God’s word and a vital life of prayers and periodic fasting .
Thirdly, the subject needs to be actively involve with a good Bible teaching and preaching church that offers fellowship and nurture in Christian holiness.
Fourthly, the individual needs a good Christian friend or married couple with whom to share burdens and be held accountable.
Fifthly, the individual needs to be committed to professional Christian counseling to learn about the root of homosexuality and lesbianism, gain personal insight and work through emotional healing
Finally, the individual needs to be involved in a group support ministry with other overcomers. Such a group offers weekly support and education provides Honesty, openness, prayer and encouragement. God loves all gays and there is hope for those trying to overcome lesbianism and homosexuality.
“Don’t you know that those doing such things have no share in the kingdom of God? Don’t fool yourselves. Those who live immoral lives, who are idol worshippers , adulterers or homosexuals will have no share in his kingdom. Neither with thieves or greedy people, drunkards, slanderers or robbers. There was a time when some of you were just like that but now your sins are washed away and you are set apart for God; and he has accepted you because of what the Lord Jesus Christ and the Spirit of our God have done for you” 1cor.6:9-11.
Heavenly father, forgive me of my sins of sexual immorality against you. Wash me clean from all unrighteousness as I receive Jesus Christ as my Lord and personal Saviour. Amen.
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