PRAYERS POINTS OF A PRAYING HUSBAND

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Good -Life Devotional: PRAYERS POINTS OF A PRAYING HUSBAND 

By Rev Michael Benson Ajayi

 Matthew 26:41

"Watch and pray, that ye enter not into temptation: the spirit indeed is willing, but the flesh is weak. '

A marriage is as strong as the prayer of faith backing it up. Here are some prayer models for a praying husband.

1. THANKSGIVING

Heavenly Father, I thank You for the precious gift of my wife and children. Your Word says that children are a heritage from You and a reward (Psalm 127:3). I bless You for entrusting me with the responsibility of leading, protecting, and nurturing them. Forgive me for the times I have taken them for granted. Help me always to honor You with gratitude, recognizing that every good and perfect gift comes from You. Let thanksgiving flow continually from my lips and keep my home filled with Your presence. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

 Psalm 127:3 – “Children are a heritage from the LORD, offspring a reward from him.”

2. HOLINESS

Lord, You desire men everywhere to lift holy hands in prayer without anger or disputing (1 Timothy 2:8). Cleanse me from every hidden sin, bitterness, and pride. Purify my thoughts, my speech, and my actions. Let holiness be the foundation of my leadership at home and my worship in Your presence. May my life inspire my wife and children to pursue righteousness. Help me to walk in integrity and faithfulness so that my prayers are not hindered. Keep me blameless until the coming of Christ. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

1 Timothy 2:8 – “Therefore I want the men everywhere to pray, lifting up holy hands without anger or disputing.”

3. INTIMACY WITH GOD

Father, draw me closer to You every day in prayer and in the study of Your Word. Guard my heart from distractions and lukewarmness. Teach me to abide in You so that my life becomes fruitful and pleasing to You. May my intimacy with You overflow into my marriage, shaping me into a godly husband and father. Let my children see in me an example of devotion and reverence to God. I long to walk with You as Enoch did, faithfully and consistently. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

 James 4:8 – “Come near to God and he will come near to you.”

4. HEADSHIP

Lord, You have called me to lead my home as Christ leads the church (Ephesians 5:23). Grant me wisdom, humility, and discernment to make godly decisions. Help me to lead not with pride or harshness but with sacrificial love and gentleness. Let my leadership be guided by prayer and Your Word. May I inspire my wife and children to follow You wholeheartedly. Remove confusion and strife from our home, and establish peace and order under Your authority. Make me a servant-leader who glorifies Christ. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

 Ephesians 5:23 – “For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior.”

PRAYER : Heavenly Father forgive me of my sins against you I believe Jesus Christ died and was raised again for my salvation I receive him as lord and saviour and receive the Holy Spirit and zeal for prayer . 

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THE PRAYING HUSBAND

 You shall continue to make great progress in the face of adversity because of the anointing of God's favour upon you .

Good -Life Devotional:

THE PRAYING HUSBAND

By Rev Michael Benson Ajayi 

   The strength of every family is tied to the prayers of its spiritual head. Scripture declares in 1 Timothy 2:8: “I want the men in every place to pray, lifting up holy hands, without anger or disputing.” A praying husband is not only the priest of his home but also the first line of defense against the wrath of God that comes upon families because of sin.

   Jesus Himself warned, “Pray so that you will not fall into temptation” (Luke 22:40). A father’s intercession preserves his wife and children from the snares of the enemy. When Jesus prayed for Peter’s faith not to fail, though Peter denied Him thrice, he was restored and later strengthened others (Luke 22:32). In the same way, a husband’s prayer covers his family in seasons of weakness.

   Abraham modeled prayer and communion with God before Isaac, who in turn taught Jacob. A child’s greatest inheritance is not money but the ability to recognize God’s voice. Samuel learned to hear from God through the guidance of Eli (1 Samuel 3). Likewise, when fathers pray and walk with God, they pass down spiritual sensitivity to their children.

    We need more praying fathers to keep the church strong. It begins with cultivating a healthy habit of studying God’s Word, living in holiness, and serving faithfully in the local church. Samuel heard God while ministering in the temple with Eli. Today, families will hear God more clearly when husbands rise as men of prayer.

  In our daily prayers we should seek a healthy appetite for God's word and zeal to pray in the spirit .

PRAYER; Heavenly Father forgive me of my sins against you I believe Jesus Christ died and was raised again for my salvation I receive him as lord and saviour and receive the Holy Spirit and power to pray in the Spirit. 

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EFFECTIVE WAYS HUSBANDS AND WIVES CAN RESTART HEALTHY COMMUNICATION AFTER A BREAK

 

Doors are being opened for you in high places because of the anointing of God's favour upon you.

Good -Life Devotional: MORE EFFECTIVE WAYS HUSBANDS AND WIVES CAN RESTART HEALTHY COMMUNICATION AFTER A BREAK

Proverbs 22:11 'He that loveth pureness of heart, for the grace of his lips the king shall be his friend. 

Good and effective communication skills in relationships opens doors in high places . Here are more was a husband and wife can restart healthy communication after a break up. 

5. REAFFIRM COMMITMENT

One major fear after a break is uncertainty about the future. Reassure your spouse of your commitment to the covenant. Hosea said to Gomer, “You must dwell with me many days.” (Hosea 3:3) This showed he wasn’t giving up.

PRACTICAL STEP: Say things like, “I’m committed to working this out because our marriage is worth it.” These words bring security.

6. SET CLEAR BOUNDARIES FOR HEALING

Rebuilding trust requires boundaries. This may include transparency with phones, limiting toxic friendships, or scheduling time together. Amos 3:3 asks, “Can two walk together except they agree?” Boundaries create agreement and safety.

Example: After infidelity, a couple agreed to share passwords and avoid private communication with the opposite sex. These measures restored trust over time.

7. LISTEN ACTIVELY

James 1:19 instructs, “Be quick to listen, slow to speak.” Many conflicts persist because spouses listen to reply, not to understand. Put away your phone, maintain eye contact, and reflect back what you hear.

Example: When Amaka returned home, her husband listened without interrupting for 30 minutes. That single act melted her defenses and opened her heart to reconciliation.

8. USE EDIFYING WORDS DAILY

Proverbs 16:24 says, “Gracious words are like a honeycomb, sweetness to the soul and health to the body.” Compliment each other often. Say thank you for small acts. Speak life into your spouse’s dreams.

Example: After years of harsh words, one husband started leaving notes saying, “I appreciate you.” Within months, their home environment changed dramatically.

9. SEEK WISE COUNSEL IF NECESSARY

Sometimes, you need help. Pride often stops couples from getting counseling, but Proverbs 11:14 says, “In the multitude of counselors there is safety.” A godly counselor can offer perspective and accountability.

Example: A Christian couple struggling to reconnect after separation attended marriage counseling at their church. With guidance and prayer, they rebuilt their communication and trust.

10. REBUILD INTIMACY GRADUALLY

Emotional and spiritual intimacy must precede physical intimacy. Hosea didn’t rush into physical union with Gomer; he focused on restoring her heart first (Hosea 3:3). Take time to talk, pray, and laugh together before resuming full intimacy.

Example: A couple agreed to have monthly date nights with no arguments—just connection and fun. This gradually restored affection and desire.

WHY THIS MATTERS

Marriage reflects Christ’s relationship with the Church. If Christ reconciled us while we were still sinners (Romans 5:8), then we, too, can extend grace. Reconciliation glorifies God and strengthens families.

FINAL THOUGHTS

Communication is the lifeline of marriage. After a break, starting again requires humility, forgiveness, and intentional effort. You are not alone—God is the ultimate restorer. Remember His promise in Joel 2:25: “I will restore to you the years that the locust has eaten.”

PRAYER FOR RECONCILIATION 

Heavenly Father forgive me of my sins against you I believe Jesus Christ died and was raised again for my salvation I receive him as lord and saviour and receive the Holy Spirit and power to heal the broken hearted 

Heavenly Father, thank You for being the God of restoration. Heal our hearts from hurt, remove pride, and help us to speak with love and grace. Teach us to forgive as You forgave us. May our home be filled with peace and understanding. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

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WAYS HUSBANDS AND WIVES CAN RESTART HEALTHY COMMUNICATION AFTER A BREAK

 Difficult and complicated problems shall dissolve at your presence because of the anointing of God's favour upon you.

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WAYS HUSBANDS AND WIVES CAN RESTART HEALTHY COMMUNICATION AFTER A BREAK

By Rev Michael Benson Ajayi 

"All this is from God, who reconciled us to Himself through Christ and gave us the ministry of reconciliation." (2 Corinthians 5:18, AMP)

   Marriage is a divine covenant, not just a social contract. Yet, even strong marriages can experience seasons of misunderstanding, emotional distance, or even physical separation. These breaks, if not handled well, can destroy trust and affection. But God specializes in reconciliation, and He calls couples to walk in that same spirit.

   The story of Prophet Hosea and his wife Gomer (Hosea 3:1-3) is a vivid example. Gomer abandoned Hosea, yet God commanded Hosea to love her again, symbolizing His unwavering love for His people. This narrative teaches us that reconciliation is possible—even after deep hurt—through God’s grace and intentional effort.

Below are some practical ways couples can restart healthy communication after a break, supported by Scripture and real-life wisdom.

1. BEGIN WITH PRAYER AND HUMILITY

Everything begins with God. Prayer softens hardened hearts and aligns our spirit with His will. Before you speak to your spouse, speak to God. Hosea sought God before restoring his wife, and so should we.

"God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble." (James 4:6)

Example: Before John called his estranged wife after six months of silence, he prayed daily for God to heal his bitterness. By the time he reached out, his tone was humble and loving, not accusatory.

2. ACKNOWLEDGE PAST HURTS WITHOUT BLAME

Healthy communication starts by addressing the elephant in the room. Pretending nothing happened deepens wounds. However, this must be done without finger-pointing. Use “I feel” statements instead of “You always” or “You never.”

"Speaking the truth in love, we are to grow up in every way into Him who is the head—Christ." (Ephesians 4:15)

Example: Instead of saying, “You abandoned me,” say, “I felt lonely and hurt during our separation.” This opens the door for empathy rather than defense.

3. EXPRESS GENUINE FORGIVENESS

Without forgiveness, reconciliation is impossible. Colossians 3:13 says, “Forgive as the Lord forgave you.” Forgiveness is a choice, not an emotion. You may not forget immediately, but you can release resentment today.

Example: Belema  wrote a letter to her husband after his betrayal, stating, “I choose to forgive you, not because you deserve it, but because Christ forgave me.” That broke the ice for honest conversation.

4. SPEAK WITH LOVE AND RESPECT

Words can either build bridges or walls. Proverbs 15:1 reminds us, “A gentle answer turns away wrath.” Avoid harsh tones, sarcasm, or threats. Instead, speak words that heal and edify.

Example: When arguments arose, Timi and Ngozi agreed to pause and pray before continuing the discussion. This practice helped them choose kind words even in tense moments.

In our daily prayers we should seek a healthy appetite for God's word and the spirit of reconciliation in our homes and communities.

PRAYER : Heavenly Father forgive me of my sins against you I believe Jesus Christ died and was raised again for my salvation I receive him as lord and saviour and receive the Holy Spirit and power to overcome bitterness.

Heavenly Father, thank You for being the God of restoration. Heal our hearts from hurt, remove pride, and help us to speak with love and grace. Teach us to forgive as You forgave us. May our home be filled with peace and understanding. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

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CORDIAL RELATIONSHIP WITH BETTER COMMUNICATION IN MARRIAGES ( PART 4)

 Your tears of sorrow shall turn into tears of joy because of the anointing of God's favour upon you.

Good-Life Devotional: CORDIAL RELATIONSHIP WITH BETTER COMMUNICATION IN MARRIAGES ( PART 4) 

By Rev Michael Benson Ajayi 

 Derogatory remarks a Husband Should Avoid Saying to His Wife for a Cordial Relationship

Colossians 4:6 'Let your speech be alway with grace, seasoned with salt, that ye may know how ye ought to answer every man." 

There is a way to answer every man according to the scriptures . We are saved by grace therefore our speeches should reflect the saving grace of our lord Jesus Christ.

 Here are more remarks that a husband should not make towards his wife and their implications.

“YOU ARE LAZY.” – Ignores her daily sacrifices and labor.

“STOP TALKING, YOU DON’T KNOW ANYTHING.” – Silences her voice and belittles her wisdom.

“YOU ARE A BAD MOTHER.” – Cuts at the heart of her identity.

“OTHER WOMEN ARE BETTER THAN YOU.” – Inflicts deep wounds of comparison.

“YOU DON’T SATISFY ME.” – Insensitive and dishonoring to marital intimacy.

“I DON’T NEED YOU.” – Dismisses her role as a partner.

“YOU ARE CURSED/YOU BRING ME BAD LUCK.” – Invites condemnation instead of blessing.

“YOU DISGUST ME.” – Breaks intimacy and affection.

“I WISH I NEVER MET YOU.” – The ultimate betrayal of love.

BIBLICAL EXAMPLES OF HUSBANDS WHO SPOKE WELL

 + Elkanah and Hannah (1 Samuel 1:8): When Hannah wept over barrenness, Elkanah comforted her by saying, “Am I not more to you than ten sons?” He spoke love to soothe her pain.

+  Boaz and Ruth (Ruth 2:12): Boaz blessed Ruth with words of encouragement and honor for her faithfulness. His words strengthened her heart.

+  Jesus and the Church (Ephesians 5:25-27): Christ models the perfect husband by sanctifying His bride with words of love and life, not condemnation.

POSITIVE ALTERNATIVES HUSBANDS SHOULD USE

+ Instead of “You are useless,” say: “I am blessed to have you as my partner.”

+ Instead of “I regret marrying you,” say: “You are God’s gift to me.”

+ Instead of “You are a bad mother,” say: “You are doing an amazing job with the children.”

+ Instead of “You don’t satisfy me,” say: “I cherish the intimacy we share.”

+ Instead of “Other women are better than you,” say: “You are the only one I desire.”

   A wife blossoms in an atmosphere of love and respect. Just as a wife is called to honor her husband, the husband is commanded to love his wife sacrificially. WORDS ARE SEEDS: plant encouragement, and you will harvest joy; plant insults, and you will reap strife.

   Proverbs 15:1 reminds us: “A soft answer turns away wrath, but harsh words stir up anger.” Therefore, let every husband learn to speak words of life, so that the marriage remains cordial, peaceful, and filled with the fragrance of Christ.

  In our daily prayers we should seek a healthy appetite for God's word and a heart of compassion. 

PRAYER: Heavenly Father forgive me of my sins against you I believe Jesus Christ died and was raised again for my salvation I receive him as lord and saviour and receive the Holy Spirit and power to forgive .

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CORDIAL RELATIONSHIP WITH BETTER COMMUNICATION IN MARRIAGES ( PART 3)

 Your shall not be disgraced because of the anointing of God's favour upon you.

Good-Life Devotional: CORDIAL RELATIONSHIP WITH BETTER COMMUNICATION IN MARRIAGES ( PART 3) 

 Derogatory remarks a Husband Should Avoid Saying to His Wife for a Cordial Relationship

   Ephesians 5:25 – “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her.”

    Marriage thrives on love, honor, and mutual respect. While wives are cautioned against using careless words, husbands must also guard their tongues. A wife is a reflection of how her husband treats her. Proverbs 31:28 says, “Her children rise up and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her.”

     Words spoken by a husband can either nurture his wife into a confident, joyful woman or crush her spirit into bitterness. Just as Christ uses words of love and encouragement toward the Church, husbands are called to speak words that edify.

  Below are some derogatory things husbands must avoid saying to their wives if they desire peace, intimacy, and a cordial relationship:

    Here are some Derogatory remarks Husbands Must Avoid Saying to Their Wives

“YOU ARE TOO FAT/TOO THIN.” – Body shaming erodes her confidence.

“YOU ARE AGING BADLY.” – Insults her appearance and makes her insecure.

“YOU ARE NOT BEAUTIFUL.” – Destroys her self-esteem.

“MY MOTHER COOKS BETTER THAN YOU.” – Comparison invites resentment.

“YOU ARE JUST LIKE YOUR MOTHER!” (in a negative way) – Disrespectful to her family and identity.

“YOU CAN’T DO ANYTHING RIGHT.” – Cancels her efforts and belittles her.

“YOU ARE TOO EMOTIONAL.” – Dismisses her feelings instead of showing empathy.

“YOU ARE A TERRIBLE WIFE.” – Labels and wounds her deeply.

“I REGRET MARRYING YOU.” – Shakes the foundation of trust.

“I SHOULD HAVE MARRIED SOMEONE ELSE.” – Plants seeds of rejection and betrayal.

“You are useless without me.” – Controlling and demeaning.

 In our daily prayers we should seek a healthy appetite for God's word and wisdom to speak with grace .

PRAYER: Heavenly Father forgive me of my sins against you I believe Jesus Christ died and was raised again for my salvation I receive him as lord and saviour and receive the Holy Spirit and power for wise self expression 

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CORDIAL RELATIONSHIP WITH BETTER COMMUNICATIONS IN MARRIAGES ( PART 2)

 Your family shall continue to enjoy unlimited provisions because of the anointing of God's favour upon you.

Good -Life Devotional: 

CORDIAL RELATIONSHIP WITH BETTER COMMUNICATIONS IN MARRIAGES  ( PART 2) 

By Rev Michael Benson Ajayi 

 Derogatory Things a Wife Should Avoid Saying to Her Husband for a Cordial Relationship

11. “I HATE YOU.”

The most destructive declaration in any marriage.

12. “YOU ARE STUPID.”

This is disrespectful and humiliating.

13. “YOU ARE JUST LIKE YOUR FATHER!” (in a negative sense)

Comparing him to negative traits of his parents deepens wounds.

14. “YOU DISGUST ME.”

Breaks emotional and physical connection.

15. “I WISH YOU WERE DEAD.”

The ultimate curse. Words like this invite destruction.

16. “YOU NEVER DO ANYTHING FOR ME.”

Dismisses every effort he has made in the past.

17. “OTHER MEN TAKE BETTER CARE OF THEIR WIVES.”

Comparisons lead to bitterness and envy.

18. “YOU ARE TOO WEAK TO LEAD.”

Discredits his God-given role and causes rebellion or withdrawal.

19. “YOU ARE A BAD FATHER.”

Criticism in this area cuts deeply and affects his confidence in parenting.

20. “I CAN LIVE WITHOUT YOU.”

Suggests he is irrelevant and not valued.

THE POWER OF EDIFYING WORDS

Instead of tearing down your husband with harsh words, choose to build him up with affirmations like:

“I BELIEVE IN YOU.”

“YOU ARE A BLESSING TO THIS FAMILY.”

“THANK YOU FOR WORKING SO HARD FOR US.”

“I RESPECT YOU AS MY HUSBAND.”

“WITH GOD’S HELP, WE WILL OVERCOME THIS TOGETHER.”

Proverbs 14:1 says, “The wise woman builds her house, but the foolish pulls it down with her hands.” A wise wife uses words to strengthen her home, just like Zipporah chose action and life-giving words over criticism.

PRACTICAL TIPS FOR WIVES

+ PAUSE BEFORE SPEAKING: Think—will these words build or destroy?

+ SPEAK WITH GRACE: Colossians 4:6 says, “Let your speech always be gracious, seasoned with salt.”

+ PRAY INSTEAD OF NAGGING: 1 Peter 3:1 encourages wives to win their husbands without harsh words.

+ AFFIRM EFFORT, NOT JUST SUCCESS: Celebrate progress.

+CORRECT PRIVATELY, PRAISE PUBLICLY: Never embarrass him in front of others.

Conclusion:

Your words can either be weapons of destruction or tools of construction in marriage. Learn from Zipporah—choose life, speak life, and watch your marriage flourish.

PRAYER: Heavenly Father forgive me of my sins against you I believe Jesus Christ died and was raised again for my salvation I receive him as lord and saviour and receive the Holy Spirit and power to forgive .

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