Tuesday, April 30, 2013



The sanctity of sex:  The act of marriage is that beautiful and intimate relationship shared uniquely by a husband and wife in the privacy of their love. It is holy or sacred experience and was designed by God to be so in any relationship.

The writer of the book of Hebrews in the Bible declares in Hebrews 15:4 “Marriage is honourable in all and the bed undefiled”. The term the bed undefiled is indicative of the truth that marriage is sacred experience just as worship is. The act of lovemaking is therefore a very holy experience.

The Holy Spirit’s word for ‘bed’ in Hebrew is the Greek Koite (pronounced Koy Tay) meaning ‘cohabitation by implanting the male sperm’ koite comes from the root word Keimai meaning to lie’ and is akin to Koimao which means ‘to cause to sleep’. The commonly used word describing sex is the word coitus which comes from the latin word coition, the Greek word Koite has the same meaning and signifies the relationship a married couple experiences in the bed that the cohabit’ Based on this meaning of the word, Heb.13:4 could be translated, ‘Coitus in marriage is honourable in all and undefiled.’ It is God’s privilege for partners to create a new life, another human being, as a result of the expression of their love.

God, who created sex describes it as very good (Gen. 1:31) and was intended for the purpose of mutual enjoyment by a man and his wife 1Tim.6:17 and also to bring about the propagation of a godly human race. It is against this backdrop that all form of ungodly acts of sex are highly condemned by God.

The word of God clearly spells out God’s design for sexual expression. The restrictions he placed on sexual expression protect the purity of that design.

God has set boundaries on sexual expression because of his holiness and as a means of protecting us from physical and emotional harm. By living within the borders of sexual purity, we can experience this wonderful gift from God as he intended.

The abominable sex acts as enumerated in the Bible includes incest – sex with near relatives Lev.18:10-18, immediate family Lev.18:6-9.fornication i.e. sexual act outside marriage e.g. promiscuity Deut.22:23-25, adultery, Deut.22:22, prostitution Deut. 23:17-18; perversion i.e. Homosexuality and lesbianism Lev.18:22, prov.1:26 bestiality i.e. sex with an animal Lev.18:23 practitioners of these act are in violation of God’s righteous laws and stand judged by God’s word Pro.1:32 and in danger of eternal damnation.

WHOLISTIC SEX EDUCATION: Gen.18:22-26 God created sex to be an intimate bonding experience between a husband and wife. Homosexual and lesbian practices violated God’s design. We must not take sexual sin lightly; indifference about it only conveys acceptance and God does not want us to accept sin. Parents need to teach their children that God has made provision for sexual union within the bonds of marriage between a man and a woman (Gen.2:23-24). Don’t wait what friends and schools to teach them to accept what God calls sinful behaviour. In your comments and attitude towards homosexuals, model love for the person – because God loves all people (Jn.3:16) along with hate for the sin. Parents should be the one to introduce God’s design for sex to their children. God’s word is the standard for truth and is ultimately reliable. It reveals God’s standard about life and human sexuality. In Romans1:24-27, we can see four moral and spiritual truths about homosexuality and lesbianism.

Homosexuality is a behaviour: The Bible never calls homosexuality an identity or an alternative sexuality created by God. The Bible says ‘women…… indulged in sex … With each other. And the men…..doing shameful things with other men……’Romans 1:26 - 27.

Homosexuality is a sinful behaviour: Sinful means that such behaviour is displeasing to God. The word of God says; ‘God let them go ahead into every sort of sex sin’ Romans 1: 24.

Homosexuality and Lesbianism is a substitute for God’s natural plan: the word of God says that “even their women turned against God’s natural plan (Rom.1:26). God created all people to be heterosexuals even as there would be a male and female character among homosexuals .. Homosexuality and lesbianism is a spiritual and emotional disorientation, deviation and disorder of his plan.
As with all sin, the root of homosexuality and lesbianism is caused and maintained by those who refuse to honour God. “They know about him all right, but they wouldn’t admit it or worship him or even thank him all his daily care” Rom.1:21.

All sin is a turning away from God all healing comes from a return to God spiritually and morally, lesbianism and homosexuality as a sinful behaviour that distorts God’s natural plan for human sexuality. Loss of self worth, low self esteem, identity crises and a filthy disposition and a high suicidal tendency are some of the traits in the lives of confessed homosexuals and lesbians.

Homosexuality is not the unforgivable sin: It is important to understand that homosexual behaviour has emotional and psychological roots. While homosexuality is sin, it is not the unforgivable sin. God knows that all of us are sinners prone to emotional wounding and disordered behaviour.

In the gospel of St. John 8: 1-11, we see the story of an adulterous woman who was brought before Jesus. If this had been a homosexual person, Jesus would have meted same act of kindness to such an individual. The word of God says; Jesus loved the woman just as he loves all sinners including homosexuals and lesbians popularly knows as “gays”. He forgave her and commanded her to stop sinning. He said; neither do I condemn you. Go and sin no more. (John 8:11). God loves homosexuals or gays and calls them to repent and be healed. He seeks their conversion, not their shame and ruin.

How to overcome Homosexuality and Lesbianism:
There are six elements to an effective healing program for individuals struggling with lesbianism or homosexuality.

Firstly, the individual most open his/her heart to the pure love of God. Only God can give a new heart through a personal relationship through Jesus Christ. He or she needs to become a child of God. Only Jesus can give the overcomer this real relationship to God because as he says “no one can get to the father except by him (John 14: 6) “To all who received him (Jesus) he gave power to become the children of God” (John 1:12)

Secondly, the individual needs a personal devotional life that include regular study and meditation on God’s word and a vital life of prayers and periodic fasting .

Thirdly, the subject needs to be actively involve with a good Bible teaching and preaching church that offers fellowship and nurture in Christian holiness.

Fourthly, the individual needs a good Christian friend or married couple with whom to share burdens and be held accountable.

Fifthly, the individual needs to be committed to professional Christian counseling to learn about the root of homosexuality and lesbianism, gain personal insight and work through emotional healing

Finally, the individual needs to be involved in a group support ministry with other overcomers. Such a group offers weekly support and education provides Honesty, openness, prayer and encouragement. God loves all gays and there is hope for those trying to overcome lesbianism and homosexuality.

“Don’t you know that those doing such things have no share in the kingdom of God? Don’t fool yourselves. Those who live immoral lives, who are idol worshippers , adulterers or homosexuals will have no share in his kingdom. Neither with thieves or greedy people, drunkards, slanderers or robbers. There was a time when some of you were just like that but now your sins are washed away and you are set apart for God; and he has accepted you because of what the Lord Jesus Christ and the Spirit of our God have done for you” 1cor.6:9-11.

Heavenly father, forgive me of my sins of sexual immorality against you. Wash me clean from all unrighteousness as I receive Jesus Christ as my Lord and personal Saviour. Amen.
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Friday, April 26, 2013



- The beginning of the destruction of the institution of marriage-

“Homosexuality is absolutely forbidden, for it is an enormous sin” Leviticus 18.22.

“God shows his anger from heaven against all sinful, evil men who push away the truth from them… they knew about him all right, but they wouldn’t admit or worship him or even thank him for all his daily care… so God let them go ahead into every sort of sex sin,… instead if believing what they knew was the truth about God, they deliberately chose to believe lies…  That is why God let go of them and let them do all these evil things, so that even their women turned against God’s natural plan for them and indulged in sex sin with each other. And the men, instead of having normal sex relationships with women,  burned with lust for each other, men doing shameful things with other men and as a result, getting paid within their own souls with the penalty they so richly deserved … Romans 1.18 –27.
HOMOSEXUALITY:  The chambers Dictionary defines this term as “having or relating to sexual attraction to members of one’s own sex or a person sexually attracted only to one’s own sex or a person sexually attracted only to others of their own sex.
ABNORMALITY OF HOMOSEXUAL BEHAVIOUR:  The chambers dictionary defines what is normal as that which is according to rule; not deviating from the standard; regular, typical, ordinary; well-adjusted mentally; functioning regularly; Homosexuals do not follow or fulfill any of these criteria of normality therefore Homosexuality or lesbianism is an abnormal way of life. The Holy Bible calls this behaviour abnormal.
POPULARITY OF HOMOSEXUALITY:  With the advent of the internet and the ease of travel from one part of the globe to the other it has become quite easier for proponents of this lifestyle to bond with their counterparts from the other parts of the world as a result pornographic materials depicting Homosexuality and lesbianism are found in virtually every nook and cranny of our society.

Addicts are quick to say that is an alternative lifestyle that has gained quite some popularity and therefore is here to stay. It is erroneous to assume that the popularity of a negative lifestyle will automatically turn into a positive virtue. For instance, driving on the opposite lane against vehicular traffic   is an alternative lifestyle however it’s popularity would not make it a right thing to do. The implications; incessant traffic hold-ups- are not far-fetched.
LEGALIZATION OF SAME-SEX MARRIAGE: This involves giving legal backing to Homosexuals to consummate their relationship as a man would with his wife. Thus, a man would be free to marry a fellow man and receive the same constitutional benefits as in a man-woman marriage relationship. That would mean having homosexuals expressing their sexual intimacy in public such as the holding of hands, kissing etc. It also involves having Homosexual as Bishops, Pastors, imams, headmasters, Newscasters, Military officers, senators, and President of the Federal Republic of Nigeria.

Societies that have legalized same sex marriage have witnessed a rapid decline and deterioration of it’s moral fibre as Homosexuality is nothing but an affront on the institution of marriage which consists of a man and a woman in a common bond of matrimonial relationship. Homosexuals themselves confirm this status by having one of them acting out as a woman; there are also instances of homosexuals adopting babies in other to fill the void created by the absence of the opposite sex. This introduces the baby into a world of identity crises and at the end the child grows up to become socially and psychologically imbalanced. This imbalance now leads to the corrosion of communal values such as customs and traditions. This leads to insensitivity towards each other as the value for human life plummets and irrationalism becomes the order of the day. A war of the sexes becomes eminent. That is why in Europe and America where homosexuality has been legalized, it is common place to hear of serial killers whose victims  where women and vice versa. Other forms of sexual vices become rampant.


“But it takes only one wrong person among you to infect all the others – a little yeast spreads quickly through the whole batch of dough! Galatians  5.9

all it takes for a total break down of societal and moral order is for those sadled with the SACRED responsibility of instituting godly laws which serve to protect society to make compromise by accepting to constitutionalize same sex marriage thus equating good with evil. This will automatically stir up other ungodly so-called human right activities who will then overwhelm the legislative arm of government with bills such as we have in America and Europe that legitimizes pornography which is Satan’s door –way to absolute sodomy. The resultant effect would be the proliferation of sexual immorality such as paedophilia (sexual desire whose object is children), incest (i.e sexual relations with near relatives Lev.18:10-18 or immediate family Lev. 18:6-9) promiscuity (casual sexual acts as depicted in most western movies, Adultery (sexual relations person Deut. 22. 22) Prostitution (acceptance if money for sexual intercourse Deut. 23:17-18) Bestiality (i.e having sexual acts with animals Lev. 18.23). These and other lewd acts are rampant in societies where homosexuality has been legalized.

The consequences of legalizing a sexually immoral act sets the stage for the collapse of the institution of marriage-the bedrock of a sound moral upbringing-today, 50% of the marriages in America and England end up in divorce after a year of marriage. Those societies struggle daily  with the menace of STD’s (Sexually Transmitted Diseases) such as HIV/AIDS. There is also an upsurge in the rate of teenage pregnancies, multiple abortions; and this has increased the rate of maternal deaths due to abortion related complications. Our churches are now inundated with women seeking for the fruit of the womb due to the damaging effects of sexual immorality as most of them find it difficult to   conceive and as a result lots of marriages are falling apart.


“Destruction is certain for those who say that evil is good and good is evil; that dark is light and light is dark; that bitter is sweet and sweet is bitter” Isaiah 5.20.

our law makers where put in office by God to promulgate righteous laws designed to bring glory to God, thus promoting joy and peace to the populace. They should therefore  resist the pressure form these pseudo- human –rights groups whose patrons and  major sponsors are the producers of pornographic paraphernalia such as condoms, pills, pornographic movies etc , these see our large population as a viable market to sell their products as they are presently doing in the public schools on America and Europe were condoms are freely distributed to children in public schools and today we have a sex industry with an estimated worth of over 5 billion U.S Dollars. Law makers are given mouth watering offers to enact bad laws at the expense of the safety of their children and loved ones who are suffering under the consequences of the wrong decisions made by past governments. Monies that would have been used to build good roads and other essentials are diverted towards buying drugs to fight the scurge of the various STD’S which attack the workforce of the nation thus destroying the economy of the nation.


Adultery, fornication, homosexuality, sensuality, impure desire and degrading passions are considered grave sins in the sight of God. They are a transgression of the law of love and a defiling of the marriage relationship such sins are severely condemned in scripture. Making a practice of these sins places one outside the kingdom of God. (Romans 1.24-32, 1 Cor. 6.9, 10, Gal. 5: 19-21).

SEX EDUCATION:  God created sex to be an intimate bonding experience between a husband and wife. Homosexual practices violate God’s design. We must not take sexual sin lightly indifference about it only conveys acceptance, and God does not want us to accept sin. Parents need to teach their children that God has made provision for sexual union within the bonds of marriage between a man and a woman (Gen. 2:23-24). If we don’t tell our kids the truth about sex, someone will tell them a lie.


Heavenly, Father forgive me of my sexual sins and wash me clean from filthy thoughts on sex, I pray in Jesus name. Amen.




The Chambers Dictionary defines ‘deception’ as ‘the act of deceiving or misleading; trick; illusion. The scripture describes Satan as the father of lies’ (John 8:44) Have you ever been lied to convincingly, now what you had experienced was the result of a baby lying to you; now imagine how convincing when the originator of lies decides to trick you. Satan is the grandmaster /teacher of all tricksters or 419 ‘ers across the globe. Speaking to the religious tricksters of his time, Jesus said, “For you are the children of your father the devil and you love to do the evil things he does. He was a murderer from the beginning and a hater of truth – there is not an iota of truth in him. When he lies, it is perfectly normal; for he is the father of liars”. John 8:44 Lb.

Satan will never allow you attend a church where sound doctrine is taught. Teachers of the truth make you responsible for your action and we are in a generation where rebellion and irresponsibility are the order of the day and as such people prefer to attend religious meetings where they are told ‘they are not responsible for their actions’ but rather their failures are as a result of a curse or hex from a witch or voodoo priest or the evil machinations of a phantom enemy. This is the carry over effect of the spirit of failure from the first man ‘Adam’ in his time who attributed his failure to obey God’s commandment to his wife.

As long as we keep abdicating responsibility to someone else, we deprive ourselves of the positive changes in our way of doing things which are a sine-qua-non for successful and happy living.  Hard work under the premise of divine principles is the key to ultimate success in life. If you work hard at marriage you will have a successful marriage, the same goes for every other sphere of life, “Hard work means prosperity; only a fool idles away means prosperity; only a fool idles away his time” Prov. 12:11 Lb.

There is a no substitute for hard work unfortunately a lot of Christians have substituted hard work with prayer as  they spend unending hours praying instead of working. That is why our churches are flooded with beggars and mediocres. This is the result of an irresponsible life style. And creates a veritable ground for the propagation of Satan’s lies, exploitation and abuse.

If the devil and his demons have been stripped of their authority as it is written “I have been given all authority in heaven and earth”. Matt. 28:19. And “… I have given you authority over all the power of the enemy, and to walk among serpents and scorpions and to crush them. Nothing shall injure you!” Luke 10:19 Lb. Why are there so many defeated Christians? The devil tricks or deceives us into believing that a lie is the truth; that something is real when it isn’t; that wrong is right, and right is wrong.

If we believe his lies, he has gained a foot hold in our lives. He will then take as much room as we will give to him. He has no legal right to do this, but he will if we allow him to.

The purpose of Satan is to illegally kill, steal and destroy that which belongs to the children of God.
We have the power and authority to stop him every time. However, he will try to make us think that we do not. He will seek to look and act as if he is in command. He wants us to think and feel like we are weak, helpless victims under his power and control. If he can deceive us, the devil knows we will fall back in fear and not resist him in faith. Accusation And condemnation: Satan would first of all mislead us to do an immoral did after which he quickly turns around to put blame on us this making us feel guilty and weak in faith. The charges against us may be true or false. In either case, if we accept it, we will feel guilty and weak in faith. The charges against us may be true or false. In either case, if we accept it, we will feel guilty and unfit. We are consequently brought under the fear of judgment or condemnation.
Conviction versus Condemnation.
Every born again Christian must know the difference between the conviction  of the Holy Spirit and the Condemnation of the devil. This will help us withstand the attacks from Satan and his cohorts.

The Holy Spirit will ‘convict’ (to prove guilty us of sin by clearly pointing it out to us through the voice of our conscience. Once we see our guilt, we repent (turn from our sin). True repentance causes us to be sorry that we have sinned against the law and love of our heavenly Father.

The Holy Spirit will then move us to confess our sin and receive God’s forgiveness. In this we are restored to the joy of our salvation in Christ. “But if we confess our sins to him, he can be depended on to forgive us and to cleanse us from every wrong..” I Jn. 1:9.Lb.
“Against you and you only have I sinned and done evil in your sight… wash me and I will be whiter than snow… Hide your face from my sins, erase them from your sight… create in me a clean heart, O God and renew a strong, right spirit within me… Restore to me the joy of your salvation and give me a willing spirit that wants to do your will”. (Ps. 51:4, 7, 9, 10, 12).
The enemy always ‘accuses and condemns’ us for both our sins and our weaknesses. Most of the times, we are not even guilty of the things for which we are charged. However, his intentions are to bring us into feelings of both doom and despair. He wants us to think that God has cut us off and that we have little hope for the future. If this trick does not succeed then he will seek to keep us under an uneasy cloud of divine disapproval. His desire is to so weaken our faith, that we will feel we aren’t strong enough to fight against him. Today, we have a lot of people who believe that their situation cannot be changed. The devil is a liar, positive change is coming your way in Jesus name.
The devil makes us feel guilty and condemned so that our faith in God will be inoperative and paralyzed, then he (the devil) can now afflict us with diseases, poverty, destruction and death, “if our hearts condemn us not, them we have faith  towards God” I Jn. 3:2 If our heart is heavy with condemnation, our faith will be weak or we will be without any faith.
Without faith, we will not fight! That is what the devil wants – a Christian who will not fight or resist.

False Accusation. The name ‘devil’ means one who accuses or falsely blames another. More Christians are defeated by accusation and condemnation.

Even when we sin and quickly confess our faults to the Lord, Satan repeats the imagines of the sinful acts to our subconscious man and reminds us of how un-Christ- like we are, We repent over the same sin repeatedly, but can’t seem to get free from our feeling of guilt. It spoils our prayer life and hinders our worship. It robs us of our peace and joy and weakness our faith. We loose self confidence to fight the battles of life and Satan quickly tells us that we are at his mercy because we have failed in our Christian walk.

Evil And  lying Thoughts The devil attacks us by shooting evil thoughts as “fiery darts” into our minds. They come at special times such as during prayer, worship or holy communion. Satan then tells us that we are not good Christians and that other Christians do not have such thoughts thus bringing us into condemnation and destruction.

remember; our blessings from God and authority over the devil are not based on our holiness or good works. Sometimes we all  do sin and come short of God’s holy purpose for our lives.

Heavenly Father, forgive me of my sins, I receive Jesus Christ as my Lord and Saviour. Amen.
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