UNDERSTANDING HOMOSEXUALITY &
LESBIANISM
The sanctity of sex: The act of marriage is that beautiful and
intimate relationship shared uniquely by a husband and wife in the privacy of
their love. It is holy or sacred experience and was designed by God to be so in
any relationship.
The writer of the book of Hebrews in
the Bible declares in Hebrews 15:4 “Marriage is honourable in all and the bed
undefiled”. The term the bed undefiled is indicative of the truth that marriage
is sacred experience just as worship is. The act of lovemaking is therefore a
very holy experience.
The Holy Spirit’s word for ‘bed’ in
Hebrew is the Greek Koite (pronounced Koy Tay) meaning ‘cohabitation by
implanting the male sperm’ koite comes from the root word Keimai meaning to
lie’ and is akin to Koimao which means ‘to cause to sleep’. The commonly used
word describing sex is the word coitus which comes from the latin word coition,
the Greek word Koite has the same meaning and signifies the relationship a
married couple experiences in the bed that the cohabit’ Based on this meaning
of the word, Heb.13:4 could be translated, ‘Coitus in marriage is honourable in
all and undefiled.’ It is God’s privilege for partners to create a new life,
another human being, as a result of the expression of their love.
God, who created sex describes it as
very good (Gen. 1:31) and was intended for the purpose of mutual enjoyment by a
man and his wife 1Tim.6:17 and also to bring about the propagation of a godly
human race. It is against this backdrop that all form of ungodly acts of sex
are highly condemned by God.
The word of God clearly spells out
God’s design for sexual expression. The restrictions he placed on sexual
expression protect the purity of that design.
God has set boundaries on sexual expression
because of his holiness and as a means of protecting us from physical and
emotional harm. By living within the borders of sexual purity, we can
experience this wonderful gift from God as he intended.
The abominable sex acts as enumerated
in the Bible includes incest – sex with near relatives Lev.18:10-18, immediate
family Lev.18:6-9.fornication i.e. sexual act outside marriage e.g. promiscuity
Deut.22:23-25, adultery, Deut.22:22, prostitution Deut. 23:17-18; perversion
i.e. Homosexuality and lesbianism Lev.18:22, prov.1:26 bestiality i.e. sex with
an animal Lev.18:23 practitioners of these act are in violation of God’s
righteous laws and stand judged by God’s word Pro.1:32 and in danger of eternal
damnation.
WHOLISTIC SEX EDUCATION: Gen.18:22-26 God created sex to be an intimate bonding
experience between a husband and wife. Homosexual and lesbian practices
violated God’s design. We must not take sexual sin lightly; indifference about
it only conveys acceptance and God does not want us to accept sin. Parents need
to teach their children that God has made provision for sexual union within the
bonds of marriage between a man and a woman (Gen.2:23-24). Don’t wait what
friends and schools to teach them to accept what God calls sinful behaviour. In
your comments and attitude towards homosexuals, model love for the person – because
God loves all people (Jn.3:16) along with hate for the sin. Parents should be
the one to introduce God’s design for sex to their children. God’s word is the
standard for truth and is ultimately reliable. It reveals God’s standard about
life and human sexuality. In Romans1:24-27, we can see four moral and spiritual
truths about homosexuality and lesbianism.
Homosexuality is a behaviour: The Bible never calls homosexuality
an identity or an alternative sexuality created by God. The Bible says ‘women……
indulged in sex … With each other. And the men…..doing shameful things with
other men……’Romans 1:26 - 27.
Homosexuality is a sinful behaviour: Sinful means that such behaviour is
displeasing to God. The word of God says; ‘God let them go ahead into every
sort of sex sin’ Romans 1: 24.
Homosexuality and Lesbianism is a substitute for God’s
natural plan: the word of God says that “even their women turned
against God’s natural plan (Rom.1:26). God created all people to be
heterosexuals even as there would be a male and female character among homosexuals
.. Homosexuality and lesbianism is a spiritual and emotional disorientation,
deviation and disorder of his plan.
As with all sin, the root of
homosexuality and lesbianism is caused and maintained by those who refuse to
honour God. “They know about him all right, but they wouldn’t admit it or
worship him or even thank him all his daily care” Rom.1:21.
All sin is a turning away from God
all healing comes from a return to God spiritually and morally, lesbianism and
homosexuality as a sinful behaviour that distorts God’s natural plan for human
sexuality. Loss of self worth, low self esteem, identity crises and a filthy
disposition and a high suicidal tendency are some of the traits in the lives of
confessed homosexuals and lesbians.
Homosexuality is not the unforgivable sin: It is important to understand that
homosexual behaviour has emotional and psychological roots. While homosexuality
is sin, it is not the unforgivable sin. God knows that all of us are sinners
prone to emotional wounding and disordered behaviour.
In the gospel of St. John 8: 1-11, we see the story of an
adulterous woman who was brought before Jesus. If this had been a homosexual person,
Jesus would have meted same act of kindness to such an individual. The word of
God says; Jesus loved the woman just as he loves all sinners including
homosexuals and lesbians popularly knows as “gays”. He forgave her and
commanded her to stop sinning. He said; neither do I condemn you. Go and sin no
more. (John 8:11). God loves homosexuals or gays and calls them to repent and
be healed. He seeks their conversion, not their shame and ruin.
How to overcome Homosexuality and Lesbianism:
There are six elements to an
effective healing program for individuals struggling with lesbianism or
homosexuality.
Firstly, the individual most open
his/her heart to the pure love of God. Only God can give a new heart through a
personal relationship through Jesus Christ. He or she needs to become a child
of God. Only Jesus can give the overcomer this real relationship to God because
as he says “no one can get to the father except by him (John 14: 6) “To all who
received him (Jesus) he gave power to become the children of God” (John 1:12)
Secondly, the individual needs a
personal devotional life that include regular study and meditation on God’s
word and a vital life of prayers and periodic fasting .
Thirdly, the subject needs to be actively
involve with a good Bible teaching and preaching church that offers fellowship
and nurture in Christian holiness.
Fourthly, the individual needs a good
Christian friend or married couple with whom to share burdens and be held
accountable.
Fifthly, the individual needs to be
committed to professional Christian counseling to learn about the root of
homosexuality and lesbianism, gain personal insight and work through emotional
healing
Finally, the individual needs to be
involved in a group support ministry with other overcomers. Such a group offers
weekly support and education provides Honesty, openness, prayer and
encouragement. God loves all gays and there is hope for those trying to
overcome lesbianism and homosexuality.
“Don’t you know that those doing such
things have no share in the kingdom
of God? Don’t fool
yourselves. Those who live immoral lives, who are idol worshippers , adulterers
or homosexuals will have no share in his kingdom. Neither with thieves or
greedy people, drunkards, slanderers or robbers. There was a time when some of
you were just like that but now your sins are washed away and you are set apart
for God; and he has accepted you because of what the Lord Jesus Christ and the
Spirit of our God have done for you” 1cor.6:9-11.
Prayer
Heavenly father, forgive me of my
sins of sexual immorality against you. Wash me clean from all unrighteousness
as I receive Jesus Christ as my Lord and personal Saviour. Amen.
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