LIVING WITH A CONTENTIOUS SPOUSE

The love bond in your family shall continue to wax stronger because of the anointing of God's favour upon you.

Good -Life Devotional: 

LIVING WITH A CONTENTIOUS SPOUSE

By Rev Michael Benson Ajayi 

   One of the effects of generational strife is a contentious spirit. In Jacob’s household, Rachel and Leah constantly competed for affection (Genesis 29–30), producing envy, rivalry, and tension. This strife sowed seeds of division in their family. In contrast, Hannah faced provocation from her rival Peninnah but overcame by seeking God in prayer, not through strife (1 Samuel 1:6–10).

Scripture warns us: “It is better to live in a desert land than with a contentious and vexing woman.” (Proverbs 21:19, AMP) also

“As charcoal to hot embers and wood to fire, so is a contentious man to kindle strife.” (Proverbs 26:21, AMP) it also says 

“But for those who are selfishly ambitious and self-seeking and disobedient to the truth... [there will be] wrath and indignation.” (Romans 2:8, AMP)

   Yet, God provides wisdom and grace to live peaceably and victoriously, even in a difficult marriage.

Here are some  Ways to Live with a Contentious Spouse

1. WALK IN THE SPIRIT, NOT IN THE FLESH

Scripture: “Walk habitually in the Spirit... then you will certainly not carry out the desire of the sinful nature.” (Galatians 5:16)

  Strife feeds on fleshly reactions. Spirit-led living helps us respond with patience.

PRAYER: Lord, help me to walk in Your Spirit daily, not in the flesh, that I may overcome strife with peace. Memorise Galatians 5:22 and recite it everyday.

2.)  PRACTICE GENTLE ANSWERS

The Scripture:says  “A soft and gentle and thoughtful answer turns away wrath, but harsh and painful words stir up anger.” (Proverbs 15:1)

Gentleness defuses arguments before they escalate.

PRAYER: Father, put Your words in my mouth, that I may answer gently and turn away wrath.

3. COVER IN LOVE

The Scripture says: “Above all, have fervent and unfailing love... because love covers a multitude of sins.” (1 Peter 4:8)

   Love overlooks weaknesses instead of magnifying them.

PRAYER: Lord, fill me with love that covers offenses and heals wounds in my marriage.

  In our daily prayers we should seek a healthy appetite for God's word and to be filled with the Holy Spirit with the evidence of speaking in tongues for effective prayers .

PRAYER: Heavenly Father forgive me of my sins against you I believe Jesus Christ died and was raised again for my salvation I receive him as lord and saviour and receive the Holy Spirit and power to love the unlovable. 

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