CORDIAL RELATIONSHIP WITH BETTER COMMUNICATION IN MARRIAGES ( PART 4)

 Your tears of sorrow shall turn into tears of joy because of the anointing of God's favour upon you.

Good-Life Devotional: CORDIAL RELATIONSHIP WITH BETTER COMMUNICATION IN MARRIAGES ( PART 4) 

By Rev Michael Benson Ajayi 

 Derogatory remarks a Husband Should Avoid Saying to His Wife for a Cordial Relationship

Colossians 4:6 'Let your speech be alway with grace, seasoned with salt, that ye may know how ye ought to answer every man." 

There is a way to answer every man according to the scriptures . We are saved by grace therefore our speeches should reflect the saving grace of our lord Jesus Christ.

 Here are more remarks that a husband should not make towards his wife and their implications.

“YOU ARE LAZY.” – Ignores her daily sacrifices and labor.

“STOP TALKING, YOU DON’T KNOW ANYTHING.” – Silences her voice and belittles her wisdom.

“YOU ARE A BAD MOTHER.” – Cuts at the heart of her identity.

“OTHER WOMEN ARE BETTER THAN YOU.” – Inflicts deep wounds of comparison.

“YOU DON’T SATISFY ME.” – Insensitive and dishonoring to marital intimacy.

“I DON’T NEED YOU.” – Dismisses her role as a partner.

“YOU ARE CURSED/YOU BRING ME BAD LUCK.” – Invites condemnation instead of blessing.

“YOU DISGUST ME.” – Breaks intimacy and affection.

“I WISH I NEVER MET YOU.” – The ultimate betrayal of love.

BIBLICAL EXAMPLES OF HUSBANDS WHO SPOKE WELL

 + Elkanah and Hannah (1 Samuel 1:8): When Hannah wept over barrenness, Elkanah comforted her by saying, “Am I not more to you than ten sons?” He spoke love to soothe her pain.

+  Boaz and Ruth (Ruth 2:12): Boaz blessed Ruth with words of encouragement and honor for her faithfulness. His words strengthened her heart.

+  Jesus and the Church (Ephesians 5:25-27): Christ models the perfect husband by sanctifying His bride with words of love and life, not condemnation.

POSITIVE ALTERNATIVES HUSBANDS SHOULD USE

+ Instead of “You are useless,” say: “I am blessed to have you as my partner.”

+ Instead of “I regret marrying you,” say: “You are God’s gift to me.”

+ Instead of “You are a bad mother,” say: “You are doing an amazing job with the children.”

+ Instead of “You don’t satisfy me,” say: “I cherish the intimacy we share.”

+ Instead of “Other women are better than you,” say: “You are the only one I desire.”

   A wife blossoms in an atmosphere of love and respect. Just as a wife is called to honor her husband, the husband is commanded to love his wife sacrificially. WORDS ARE SEEDS: plant encouragement, and you will harvest joy; plant insults, and you will reap strife.

   Proverbs 15:1 reminds us: “A soft answer turns away wrath, but harsh words stir up anger.” Therefore, let every husband learn to speak words of life, so that the marriage remains cordial, peaceful, and filled with the fragrance of Christ.

  In our daily prayers we should seek a healthy appetite for God's word and a heart of compassion. 

PRAYER: Heavenly Father forgive me of my sins against you I believe Jesus Christ died and was raised again for my salvation I receive him as lord and saviour and receive the Holy Spirit and power to forgive .

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